Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Maybe I'm more girly than I thought

By which I mean that I spent quite a bit of time with Hot Med over the weekend...more than I had intended to, actually. I was thinking we'd have one weekend evening date, but he came over both Friday and Saturday evenings, and we went out to eat, took a walk and hung out at his place (with his family, off and on) on Sunday afternoon. I was surprised by how good it was to see him Friday evening, after a week of NOT seeing him.

Maybe I judged too hastily and harshly. Or maybe I underestimated the appeal of someone who clearly and demonstrably adores me. Heh. New Guy, for all that I knew that he cared about me, was NOT into public displays of affection, particularly. We'd hold hands occasionally, and he'd give me a hug and a peck as a greeting, but he just wasn't a big "I need to put my arms around this woman right now" kind of guy, and Hot Med...seems to be. Not that he's mauling me in public, or anything, and I do still have some misgivings about the way he ratcheted up the hand-holding when we were around my male friends that time, but...I have no doubt that he likes me, and that's kind of nice. And, while New Guy would regularly tell me he found me beautiful, he didn't do it with nearly the frequency that Hot Med does. It's flattering, if nothing else!

I still have a hard time thinking of this as a truly long term prospect, but...we're kind of finding a groove, I guess. We're communicating a little better, starting to get each other's senses of humor a bit--there are still major communication barriers, of course, and I can't seem to get him motivated to get back into ESL classes (which he desperately needs to do), but I have figured out how to handle making plans over the phone without too much frustration. I call, state clearly when and where I intend to pick him up, wait for him to repeat it back to me, and then we hang up. So far it's worked out okay. Hee.

I have also found out that we are compatible politically. Here is his succinct summing up of the current and past U.S. administrations: "Bush--no good. Stupid, crazy, make many dead. Obama--good! Change, make more clinics." The "make many dead" was accompanied by shooting sounds--clearly a referendum on the war. And I am assuming that "make more clinics" is limited English for "affordable healthcare for all." Heh.

So...it is what it is, and I'm enjoying it for now. I fully realize that there may come a time when I can't put my need for intellectual stimulation on the back burner any longer, but I'm trying not to focus on that. And, besides...maybe I've spent too much time looking for big brains, when I should have been looking for big hearts, eh? Something to think about, at least.

I have a very busy week of rehearsals and performances, so I won't see him again for a few days. We'll see how happy I am to see him when I do.


3carnations said...

What a sweet post. Extremely positive. Not that you are normally all negative, but you sound...different.

When I first met hubby, I was coming from a very jaded place, and resisted becoming attached to him in any way. Eventually he broke through all that. Not saying that has anything to do with YOUR situation...I'm just sayin'.

Good for you. :-)

Sauntering Soul said...

I totally agree with 3C's. You do sound different. (In a good way.)

I'm glad you're enjoying your time with Hot Med.

-R- said...

Whenever I see the monniker Hot Med, I picture him as a doctor. Like he wears a white lab coat around his apartment while he cooks for you.

-R- said...

Not that you should change his nickname! But my image of him always makes me laugh.

greenduckiesgirl said...

My favorite part of this? His description of Bush and Obama. That made me laugh with its simplicity. I think I would like him.

I'm glad you're having fun with him.

flurrious said...

Maybe you should have a conversation with him through an interpreter. That way you can figure out if it's just a language barrier or if you're really not right for each other. I have no idea how you would propose such a thing, however. "I'm trying to find out how dumb you are" would probably not be a good way.

Stefanie said...

Aw, he's growing on you! I still keep thinking this one might surprise you. You never know.

Also, I love Flurrious's idea. :-)

Stinkypaw said...

Good for you! Enjoy it!

nancypearlwannabe said...

Sometimes I think it would be better if Chris didn't speak English very well. Then I could blame our lack of communication on ESL difficulties and not his ADD.

Miss Pants said...

What an adorable surprise! Glad to hear you had a nice weekend with Hot Med. :)

I am LOVING his description of current and past administrations. At least you know you aren't dealing with conservative hiding behind a language barrier. Hee.