Monday, August 13, 2007

A little help from my "blends"

Okay, so I'm seriously considering joining match.com. What the hell, right? I survived "MeMarmony," I've actually lived through speed-dating, how much worse could it be?

There's just one thing. The profile. It's got to stand out, right? I don't want to sound boring, and truthfully, many of the ones I read do. I want it to accurately reflect me, of course, but I don't think "Cat Lady Seeks to Share the Crazy" is exactly what is called for here.

So, I'm calling on my bloggy friends for input. You're all good writers; you're all funny, insightful people--what would YOU put in your online dating profile if you were ME?

Let me have it.

I really need to do something to take my mind off the heat, and the puppy, and the fact that my clutch cable snapped on the way back from lunch today. Sigh.

7 comments:

Stinkypaw said...

I'd say just be your silly, dorky, charming self! You're worrying too much, try to enjoy this process even if it's nerve racking...

Once I answered an add in a newspaper, some guy in the States wanted to meet a French Canadian girl. We wrote a few letters, spoke on the phone, etc. When he asked for a picture I sent him one. I wanted to know if he really had a sense of humor and if he could take a joke, so I sent one from an Halloween party where I was dressed as a clown. He never wrote back... so I knew that guy wasn't for me.

I'm not saying to do that, but from your blog you have a great sense of timing and story telling so use that.

Edge said...

I would say you have about 2 short paragraphs to catch the reader's attention. And I mean short. Like 3 sentences tops each paragraph. The thing that attracts guys is the obvious, sexual appeal factor. Let's face it we're shallow. Not always, but most of the time.

My advice would be to approach it like it's not a personal ad. Try these:

Obituary
Resume Cover Letter
Cheesy Car ad


To get inside a guy's head you have to know what men are looking for ... other than a one night stand.

If you cover the 5 things in this list, you can raise your chances.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6100_needstoc.html

~Jef

stefanie said...

Ugh. The damn profile is the same thing that's kept me off Match as well. It shouldn't be so hard to describe yourself, right??

From my experience with other sites, the photos actually matter more than anything you type (sad as that may be), so I guess my main advice (more shallow advice that you'd probably expect from me... I'm in a funk, after all) is to make sure you've got good photos. Good luck!

gorillabuns said...

i'm simply purr-fect to be around. i sing, perform and can be anything you want me to be. i'm trained like that.

really, i have nothing to add but, i do wish you all the luck in writing the perfect ad. i know you can do!

Whiskeymarie said...

I agree with Stefanie- I think the picture should be really good.
And, I've been out of the dating pool for a hundred years, but most guys with substance like a little "dork" in their women. I wouldn't try to hide it completely. Just fly the freak flag at half-mast for this one.
Sincerely-
Geeky Von Dorkberg

nancypearlwannabe said...

Unfortunately, I think Stefanie is correct- the picture is the first and last thing they'll look at. Of course, some wit and charm thrown in never hurts... and you've got plenty of that!

guinness girl said...

Okay, I've been out of the loop for a bit but Liz, in asking for blogger help with match.com profiles, you have found your girl. Seriously. I'm thinking of setting up a side business for writing match.com profiles for bloggers. Send me an email with the questions it asks you to answer - however general they are - and I will help. I love this shit.

Also, kudos to you! I met Wilman on match.com and am therefore very pro-internet dating.