Monday, October 06, 2008

I heart Darwin

So, as previously mentioned, the date Friday night was cancelled. Yes, though I was determined to see it through, seeing as how I said I would, and I'm trying to prove that I am NOT too picky and judgmental, HE called to cancel.

Here's a paraphrased version:

Him: Do you have a minute to talk?

Me: Sure.

Him: It seems to me that, down the line, we might find ourselves butting heads over some things.

Me: (laughing) We already are.

Him: I think you're a great person and all, but it's go to the left, I go to the right, I go to the left, you go to the right...

Me: (dripping with sarcasm) Oh, have no doubt, I'M the one going to the left.

Him: (doesn't get it)

Me: I was probably going to say something similar myself soon.

Him: I hope you appreciate my honesty. I just wanted to be upfront.

Me: I do; it's fine.

Him: 'Cause I really do think you're very nice, but I have to be honest...


Him: Are you sure, 'cause...


We wished each other luck, and....end scene.

Now, would you like to know what the proverbial straw which broke the camel's back was?

He doesn't believe in evolution. (Or global warming, by the by.) Now, to me, this is like saying "I don't believe the world is round" or "I don't believe in the sun." Some things just are. (Note: this came up in conversation, oddly, in a round about way. This is not a litmus test question I routinely ask potential dates. At least, it wasn't. It may be now.)

I queried him: you think we just sprang up out of the mud, fully formed? He thinks "God made us and that's that." You don't even consider the possibility that an all-powerful God could have created us through evolution? "No." You don't believe in science? "I believe in science, but not like that."

Man, oh man. And, I would like it to be pointed out for the record, I was STILL willing to follow through with our planned date, 'cause that is just how open-minded I am...trying to be.

So, no dates this weekend. Except for a lunch date with a friend from high school that I hadn't seen SINCE high school. (That's 27 years, folks.) We had a great time. We ate Mexican food, and sat and gabbed for 3.5 hours. Lots of fun, and we're determined, now that we know we're actually living in the same city, not to wait another 27 years. I resisted the urge to show up with a gift-wrapped kitten to present to her, and she appreciated that restraint.

I was supposed to have a date Sunday...but the guy flaked out and disappeared AS we were making plans via email. Just disappeared. Nice.

Instead, I spent 2 hours talking on the phone to yet another guy from flentyofpish...I don't know if it's a match made in heaven, but we're politically compatible, and may meet each other at a debate-watching party tomorrow night. (He does "believe" in evolution, for the record. Though he did say "Is that something you always ask? 'Cause that would never occur to me." Hee.)


Melliferous Pants said...

I'm sorry that your Friday night date canceled...but HOLY CRAP! He doesn't believe in EVOLUTION? That is one seriously insane statement.

My successful date was with the Republican. I haven't outright asked him about it - but we've tiptoed around the big issues and we seem to feel very similarly, or at least nothing as vastly different as disbelieving sound scientific theory. ;-)

Sparkling Cipher said...

Gotta say, there's having a different view and then there's not believing in evolution. I think that one would be a deal breaker for me. Not that I'm all gung ho about evolution, but I am wondering all sorts of things about him now.

3carnations said...

Debate watching party. You may have found your politically compatible match. :)

Noelle said...

I went on a date with a Republican once and he said, "I just don't see the point of having an Alaskan wildlife refuge if we don't USE it for stuff." I never got around to the evolution question, although it would be a total dealbreaker for me.

Maybe I'll ask my next date if he wants to see "Religulous" with me. That's a good litmus test for my beliefs, or lack thereof...

Stefanie said...

Well, maybe if the stress of supporting his wife through this campaign makes Alaska's "First Dude" jump ship, you have a good rebound guy in mind for Sarah Palin?

flurrious said...

What about gravity? Does he believe in gravity?

nancypearlwannabe said...

You are a better woman than I. I would have jumped ship at Republican, closed-minded or not.

Tony B. Loney said...

As I said to you, it's like saying, "I don't believe in rain." No parables in the bible, just straight out truths? 'Cuz that's some funky crap, considering all the chapters,words,verses,etc. translated and retranslated,left in,left out... Also, Noelle, I liked the line the fellow used regarding what's the point of having wildlife refuges if we don't USE them. What is the point of endangered species if we don't KEEP them endangered?
It just gets better and better. Or worse and worse.
Somewhat tangentially, all who do not believe Sarah Palin is ready to potentially take highest office of the USA should PLEASE take the PBS poll on-line; otherwise it appears those who view PBS actually think she's ready to lead the country. Straight to hell in a helicopter shooting wolves handbag (made form moose skin.)

Lara said...

OY. I think it's very good that Friday night date guy cancelled.