Friday, March 27, 2009

Hot Mediterranean?

This week has been kind of boring. Hence the lack of posts, I suppose. But it might be getting interesting! I'll explain.

A few days ago I broke my own rule and actually paid for a month of "," lured in by the dangling of a "you have new email" message. I SWORE I would never do that again, but I did. And, of course, it was from a guy in Wisconsin whose profile was excellently written, but whose ensuing emails were, shall we say, NOT. When I expressed my indifference to long-distance relationships he insisted that he might be moving to Tulsa. When I asked him why he might be doing that, he disappeared. As I figured. Ah well, no harm, no foul, right? Well...$34.95 foul, but whatever. I left my profile as it was, but didn't do any searching of my own.

Then, a couple of days ago, I got another email. This one from a very good-looking guy who grew up "on the Mediterranean" not far from Greece, who's been in the U.S. for about a year. He's 7 years younger than me and likes to work out. He admitted that his English wasn't great yet, and that his brother helped him with his profile. I couldn't figure out why a good-looking much younger gym rat would be interested in having coffee with ME, but nevertheless, I said hello in return. He further revealed that he actually grew up in Lebanon, and responded with his phone number and personal email address if I would like to call.

(Side note: I completely understand why a Middle Eastern man might want to be somewhat vague about that in his profile, in these, the post-9/11 years. I'm sure there are many people who would write him off immediately for that, sadly. And it is true that Lebanon is on the Mediterranean, near Greece. It is also true that Tulsa has a sizable Lebanese community, that I have friends of Lebanese descent, and that I love falafel! Hee.)

Now, at this point, I remembered the saga of Sauntering Soul and her Hot Brazilian. She wasn't enthusiastic about their first meeting, either, but that turned out okay, so...I decided I would call. I was a bit nervous about the possible language barrier, and it took me a couple of days to get up my nerve, but last night I gave him a call.

Oh, my. To say English is his "second language" would be generous. He is very good at saying "ok--no problem," which he said a lot in response to my oft-repeated "I'm sorry, I didn't quite catch..." I think we might be having coffee on Sunday afternoon. Maybe? No mention of where, though. To the best of my knowledge. Or exactly when. It's also quite possible that we'll be running away to join the circus tonight, or are we simply going to elope to Las Vegas on Monday? I HAVE NO IDEA. I am, however, pretty sure that he has to work tomorrow.

I had thought I would email him today, tactfully express my confusion as to our plans, and let him get his brother to help him respond. But I don't know. Maybe I'll just let things sit, and if he's truly motivated, he can find a way to communicate more clearly and get back in touch. What do you think? I'm sure you have opinions. Heh.


3carnations said...

A language barrier might be just what you need! :)

Email him back. Let him know you didn't catch quite what the plans were.

Sounds good.

(FYI, we have a client originally from Lebanon, and his wife makes the best {I assume Lebanese} cookies!)

Stefanie said...

I definitely think you should go. That is, if you can figure out just WHERE to go.

I do very much hope you're having coffee and not that, as you suggested in your email, he's giving you an amateur root canal. :-) Good luck!

Sparkling Cipher said...

Go! Send an email explaining you weren't sure if the where and when had been set, then tell him what works for you. Then all you need from him is a "yes" or "ok - no problem."

I am quite envious of SS and her Hot Brazilian. Foreign men can be so sexy. Plus, the whole learning about each others' cultures keeps things from getting boring for a long while.

And is it so bad that his English isn't good? He's got to learn somehow if he's going to live in the US. Why not from his new girlfriend?

nancypearlwannabe said...

Don't worry, my grandfather was from Lebanon and I can act as your translator. I don't know Arabic or anything, but I can at least point out the middle eastern foods. Oh, and I know the word for "bitch".

Anonymous said...

I am all for Hot Mediterranean men! I say go for it. And him being 7 years younger is a bonus (I love younger men).

I say email him as well. If anything, maybe it will be a great story.

Mary said...

Just be honest with yourself, Liz. If it's a relationship you're really looking for, then move along. Don't waste your time. However, if you just need someone to scratch the occasional itch & you don't mind expressing this through a translator, then go for it.

Sorry to be the boring killjoy. Perhaps I'm just cranky because I'm trying to watch figure skating world championships, but meteorologists keep interrupting the show to talk about tornadoes.
[shakes fist angrily at bad weather gods]

gorillabuns said...

you don't need to actually verbally communicate - it's totally overrated.

Sauntering Soul said...

As usual, I'm late responding and I've read your next post saying you're meeting him tonight. YIPPEE!!!!

I'm not going to lie, part of the reason my first coffee date lasted 3 hours with Hot Brazilian as opposed to say, 1 hour, may have been because I spent a good portion of that 3 hours saying "Huh? I didn't quite understand that." But now that it's been 2.5 years, there are very few things he says that I don't understand. There are still times he stumbles with some sort of English phrase, but that just makes us laugh a whole lot and since I love to laugh, that's not a bad thing.

Hot Brazilian came in to meet with my boss once about a business he plans to start at some point, and my boss could not understand him at all. I had to sit in and translate for the first 10 or 15 minutes and after that my boss could understand him fine.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is, be patient with him and yourself if communication is difficult at first.

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