Wednesday, January 30, 2008

My own "worst hard time"

Sadie died two years ago today. Pudge and I still miss her, every day. Feel free to tell me how cute she was.

In other dreary news, I'm fighting off a chest cold (with the help of Hot Brazilian Magical Miracle Tea), got almost NO sleep last night, and New Guy is apparently in another funk, wherein he seemingly wants to crawl into his man-cave alone. Whatever, I guess. It's not helping my already depressed state, for sure.

Why did I want to enter the dating arena again? It was snug and comfy with Pudge in Celibate Land. Okay, it was lonely, too...but there are benefits to being emotionally numb. You don't FEEL as much. Feeling sucks.

My, my...aren't I Little Miss Sunshine today?

Sorry. My chest is full of phlegm--I can't be expected to be happy, can I? Maybe tomorrow.


Sarah said...

Incredibly cute and adorable! Aren't dogs the best?

And while there are advantages to being emotionally numb--no disappointments--there's also disadvantages. Think of all the good times you'd have missed, and all the good times that will come. Sometimes it's hard to see around phlegm, but it's there if you look.

Feel better soon!!

3carnations said...

Sorry for all that's going on. Tell New Guy to snap out of it - You don't need to deal with him on top of everything else! ;)

L Sass said...

YEAH... Snap out of it, New Guy! Tell us if you want to send the blogger posse after him.

Sadie was gorgeous. I'm sure you miss her. Hugs!

Noelle said...

I hope you feel better. Death anniversaries are the worst.

Allie said...

Maybe New Guy needs to become Old Guy...I have no patience for guys who need tons of 'man time'. Once in a while fine...but he needs to be there for you too! I'm sorry that you're having a rough one...

gorillabuns said...

Maybe it's New Guys time of the month. Tell him to snap out of it! We all have to!

I'm so sorry about being sick and missing Sadie.

Hopefully, the weekend will be better.

nancypearlwannabe said...

Aww I'm sorry you're feeling down today, lady. I agree with 3cs- New Guy needs to buck up and stop his whining. Sick men are such pains, aren't they?

-R- said...

Sadie is, of course, very cute.

I hope you feel better soon and that NG snaps out of it.

Tony B. Loney said...

Having known Sadie, I must admit she was indeed the best dog--I share your pain...well, at least I can empathize.

And being sick sucks.

As for this "man-cave" business(is that a straight guy thing?)I'm thinking he needs to either get help or lexapro or at least a damn phone that works. And though I hate it, he could at least text with "I'm OK." Of course it's easy for me to say all this. But my heart's in the right place. I think. I never really understood biology very much.

Seriously, sarah was quite wise about looking past the phlegm (ew, had a visual) and not being emotionally numb. I don't need my BBF turning into a cutter.

And after so much wordiness, remember what Scarlett O'Hara said: "Tomorrow, tomorrow, there's always to..." Oops. Wrong show.

Stefanie said...

How long has New Guy been in the picture? Five months? Little more than that? It's been a really long time since I dated anyone long enough to experience this, and honestly this is probably more an observation from my friends' relationships and destructive womens magazines than my own life anyway, but... aren't there a few sort of standard rough spots on the time line usually? If you make it past six weeks or so, you're probably good for a while... then at the three to four month point there's maybe another little freakout of sorts, and then I think the next one is usually around month six. Then it's half a year, and you start questioning things and asking the "where is this going?" questions, and the stereotypical male gets all scared and distant while the stereotypical female gets all paranoid about it... Not that either of you is stereotypical, of course; I'm just hoping this is a standard sort of rough spot and you'll get through it smoothly soon. Good luck!

Man, that was a long and rambly comment. Sorry you're feeling down! That's really my only point. :-)

Sauntering Soul said...

First of all, Sadie is a cutie pie and I'm sorry you lost her.

Secondly, I'm sorry you're feeling under the weather but I hope Hot Brazilian's tea helps you bunches. :-)

Third, relationships are a pain in the neck sometimes. But unfortunately, the nature of relationships and love require one to put their heart out there on the line and make themselves vulnerable and not emotionally numb. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't (I'm by no means implying I think you and New Guy won't). I think we all have to remind ourselves that nobody is perfect and we just have to figure out what faults we can live with and which ones we can't. If we can't deal, we have to walk away and put our hearts back out there on the line and be vulnerable again. Sucks.

Stinkypaw said...

Feel better and sorry about Sadie, she was a cutie. :-)

SUEB0B said...

Send New Guy over here. I will spank his butt and make him straighten up and act right.

So sorry about your sweet dog. I try every day to brace myself for Goldie's inevitable demise but I know there is no way.

lizgwiz said...

sarah, thanks. Dogs are the best. And you're right about the numbness, I know.

3car, sometimes I just want to bop him on the head. Hee.

lsass, I would love to send the blogger posse after him. I'm giggling just thinking of his response if he suddenly got besieged with emails from all of you. ;)

noelle, thanks. They are, indeed, the worst.

allie, yeah, the "man cave" mentality bugs me, too...but there are so many things about him that I really like, and it's so rare these days that I meet anyone I both like and am attracted to, so I guess I'm just not ready to throw in the towel.

gorillabuns, it may well be his man period. Hee.

npw, indeed. I hadn't dated in so long, I'd forgotten what babies they can be. Hee.

-r-, thanks. She was a very special dog.

bff, no cutting, I promise. Maybe some cutting remarks, though?

stef, just over five months, yes. And I think you're probably right. It's just been so long since I made it this far into a relationship--I haven't had to worry about such things. And last night when we were talking, it hit me that we ARE a pretty stereotypical man and woman in some ways. And I always thought I was different! Hee.

sauntering, good points. And you are a living, breathing example of the rewards that can come if you put yourself out there!

stinky, thanks, friend.

suebob, he probably could use a good blogosphere beatdown. And you're right, there's no way to EVER prepare yourself for the loss of a pet. It just always sucks. But the only thing worse than losing a pet is not having one, so what are you gonna do?

Lara said...

Hey! I'm sorry I'm late commenting - but Sadie is adorable, and I know how hard it is to cope with the loss of a furry friend. I hope you are feeling better and that New Guy saves himself from the ass-whupping I'm tempted to go give him. (PS, Rob spends more time than I'd like in his man-cave as well. Grrrrr.)